Be independent. Be dependent.

300 USD

15% of proceeds will be donated to Womankind (, nonprofit dedicated to helping survivors of gender-based violence to rise above trauma.

YEAR 2018
MEDIUM Acrylic ink 
EDITION Original artwork
FRAMED In white

Each artwork was created after having a conversation with a woman about her gendered contradiction. This is part of a series called Defying Dualities. Learn more about the work here: www.takeupspacebybng.

Be independent. Be dependent.

“What I found about the lean in movement and other women's movement initiatives out there is that they really push you to be this go-getter, like seize the day, Carpe Diem, I'm going to rise to the top type of woman. And being a mom for example or being there for your friends is not something you put on your LinkedIn resume. You don't get a friend rating or a relationship rating, or sister and daughter rating. Those are all things that a lot of us value even more than just work success, but there isn't really a paradigm where I can feel OK about making those trade-offs.

The ultimate tension that I was facing was, here, if you think about everyone before yourself, you're going to get fucked over like one hundred percent. And to have to live day to day with that feeling means you're not so willing to put other people first, your not so willing to love and nurture and be kind because who's doing that for you? But that whole mentality is something that I inherently reject. I want to build communities that aspire to more of the value set that I personally have aligned with. But it's hard to do that in a city that is so driven towards one very workaholic culture." –Karen M.