Don't be too docile. Don't be too candid.

300 USD

15% of proceeds will be donated to Womankind (www.iamwomankind.org), nonprofit dedicated to helping survivors of gender-based violence to rise above trauma.

SIZE
9"x12"
YEAR 2018
MEDIUM Acrylic ink 
EDITION Original artwork
FRAMED In white

Each artwork was created after having a conversation with a woman about her gendered contradiction. This is part of a series called Defying Dualities. Learn more about the work here: www.takeupspacebybng.



Don't be too docile. Don't be too candid.

“It's always been in my personality to be outspoken, but I think I've always been inspired by my mom who's always told me that you have to ask for what you want. And I found as a woman of color if you don't advocate for yourself and if you don't ask for what you want, you're never going to get it because you're going to be competing against the white males of the world.

For a lot of people, it's about recognizing microaggressions. I think microaggressions are a huge part of contradictions. For example, saying "You're really pretty for a black girl or you're surprisingly outspoken to an Asian girl." it's recognizing that when you say those things you're perpetuating stereotypes. You're apart of the problem even if you don't mean to. People who say that never have malicious intent, but that's not the problem. There's too much of a divide between people who are intentionally racist and people who are kind of racist. People have good intentions. It's supposed to be a compliment and I appreciate that, but at the same time, it's only a compliment because you have such a low opinion of me in the first place.

Stop apologizing for things. Stop apologizing for your beliefs and for who you are. Be unapologetic about it. Don't necessarily be rude or aggressive about it, but if somebody is giving you shit for something that's out of your control or because of their own expectations, don't apologize for that. You shouldn't have to change yourself." –Jennifer M.