Don't be too soft. Don't be too hard.

300 USD

15% of proceeds will be donated to Womankind (, nonprofit dedicated to helping survivors of gender-based violence to rise above trauma.

YEAR 2018
MEDIUM Acrylic ink 
EDITION Original artwork
FRAMED In white

Each artwork was created after having a conversation with a woman about her gendered contradiction. This is part of a series called Defying Dualities. Learn more about the work here: www.takeupspacebybng.

Don't be too soft. Don't be too hard.

“Women have been automatically conditioned to listen more. But I think now we are in a position where we can say “oh hey, guess what, I’ve been listening for my entire life and I’ve been seeing these things go down. And now that I have a seat at the table, and now that I have this privilege in the society that we live in, here’s what I want to say after years and years of listening.” I want more of that to happen. There are so many different fights that need to happen and this is just one of them. Being a woman is just one of them. This needs to happen across the board.

If you don’t respect yourself, you're going to be doing all these things for other people and you’re going to become whatever everyone else wants you to be and then you’re going to try and find yourself and you’re going to realize no one is home.

I don’t conflate helping other people with living for other people. I don’t conflate wanting to be successful with following a distinguished path. Don’t conflate being a woman with being a woman the way other people have been a woman." –Jenna M.