Live your life for yourself and only yourself. Be a mom and give your life to someone else.
MEDIUM Acrylic ink
EDITION Original artwork
FRAMED In white
Each artwork was created after having a conversation with a woman about her gendered contradiction. This is part of a series called Defying Dualities. Learn more about the work here: www.takeupspacebybng.
“I'm curious about what the offspring of Kevin and I would be. Probably kind of a loner nerd. But assuming that he or she is not a sociopath, I think he or she would be pretty cool. I would like to meet that person. And from other things I've read, all these worries that you have, suddenly evaporate. You find yourself feeling very close to this little person. It doesn't really matter what you thought before. It's like the pages turn. But that seems hard to depend on as a certainty because I also read other things where you absolutely love your child, but you regret not having your life. People do struggle with that.
I would tell them not to be afraid of talking about it. You're not a monster for not automatically wanting to jump into the mommy pool. But it's not a popular thing to sit around and chat about, how you don't want kids.
Also, I don't know how I learned this lesson, but at some point, I just was OK with myself. Like I wasn't OK with myself and then I just became OK with myself and I wish I could tell you what the thing is. Maybe it was just getting older or something. But the biggest change was trusting my decisions more. Not always, but more. And just not trying to be too cool. Trying to be cool is such a waste of time." –Minna K.